It is hard to imagine a clear definition of what abuse is and whether or not you are a victim. We see the extremes of abuse performed in television dramas and film but often overlook the daily occurrences of abuse that weave themselves into the fabric of our relationships. This tendency to ignore or negate our own suffering can sometimes occur because we don’t understand the various forms that abuse can take in our lives. Read more
Welcome to Dr. Chanderbhan’s Blog. Our happiness and our satisfaction with our lives is often shaped by our perspective. Therapy helps us shift our understandings about ourselves and ourselves in our relationships; it’s these shifts that lead to growth and contentment. In a busy, information overloaded world, this blog offers quality information and insights about emotional health and well-being. While the blogs are not a substitute for professional advice, I hope these posts will help you develop new ways of tackling everyday challenges.
Balancing familismo and self-care goals can be a difficult task for those of Latin American descent. It can often feel that the needs of the many (the family) outweigh the needs of the few (the self). Read more
Is your relationship in need of a revamp? Do things feel a little dry, boring, or stale? Not to worry, every long-term relationship goes through those periods. Simple preparation and a willingness to take action can improve and refresh your connection. Here are eight ideas: Read more
The weight of living with PTSD is often so heavy for your loved one that he or she is worn out and worn down from constantly trying to manage it. Their trauma is re-experienced often, or worse, it actually seems to reside inside him or her. No matter how they try to carry on normally, the disorder and the painful memories won’t let go. Read more
“New year. New me.”
“This year is going to be different.”
“I won’t give up on my goals in 2018.”
Ringing in the new year often sparks a frenzy of resolutions, both small and life-changing. You clear the fridge out and restock it with green vegetables and protein shakes, enroll in a gym membership, make dream boards, spreadsheets, etc. Read more
Family therapy is a pretty sensible course of action for most of us. Many of us have endured a lot.
After all, what other groups of people influence each other as powerfully, whether positively or poignantly, as our families? Read more
On average, over 30 percent of all adult males will experience some form of depression in their lifetimes. While women are more likely to develop and report depression, men are overwhelmingly less likely to seek help for it. Unfortunately, in our modern society, perceived gender roles often dictate that men must “suck it up” or “deal with it.”
What thoughts and emotions are getting in your way?
Why are you so afraid, so irritable, so angry, or sad?
Why do anxiety and negative emotions keep making everything so hard?
When you think of “couples therapy” do you think, “Wow, what a great idea!”
Or does a flashing red light go off in your head accompanied by thoughts like these:
“Isn’t couples therapy a last resort for really unhappy couples?”
“Aren’t those the sessions you schedule to pour out complaints and stir up trouble?”
“Don’t people do that just to confirm that their relationship really is too far gone?”
Unfortunately, couples therapy is often seen as a reaction to a relationship crisis instead of the really good thing it can be in every season of your love. Read more
Worry is work. Hard work.
And if you do it all the time, you’re likely to feel worn out from all the stress, fear, and upset your anxious thoughts cause you. Anxiety and exhaustion often work together to keep you from your ideal life and best future.
It is hard to imagine a clear definition of what abuse is and whether or not you are a victim. We see the extremes of abuse …
Balancing familismo and self-care goals can be a difficult task for those of Latin American descent. It can often feel that …